Relationship Counseling

Healthy relationships don't all look the same. They're built by creating something that fits the people in them.

Every relationship develops its own language, rhythm, and way of protecting itself. Sometimes those patterns help you grow together. Sometimes they leave you feeling unheard, disconnected, or wondering how you ended up so far apart.

Relationship counseling is a collaborative process for understanding those patterns, communicating more honestly, and figuring out what the two of you need from each other.

Healthy relationships aren't defined by looking like everyone else's. They're built by creating something that fits the people in them. 

Therapy provides a space to understand what your relationship is trying to become, identify the patterns that keep you stuck, and help each person speak more honestly about their needs, fears, boundaries, and hopes. 

Together we may explore questions like:

• Why do we keep having the same argument?
• How do we rebuild trust after a rupture?
• Why do we feel more like roommates than partners?
• How do we navigate jealousy without shame?
• What happens when one partner wants to open the relationship and the other doesn't?
• How do we balance autonomy and closeness?

Sometimes couples come to therapy because something is deeply wrong. Other times, they simply want to understand each other better, navigate a transition, or create a relationship that feels more intentional, one that reflects who they are today rather than who they were years ago.

There is no single relationship model that I consider “normal.” My practice is LGBTQIA+ affirming, sex-positive, kink-aware, and welcoming of both monogamous and consensually non-monogamous relationships.

Relationships change because the people in them do. Sometimes that change brings people closer; sometimes it leaves you wondering what happened to the relationship you thought you were building.

If you're trying to understand what's changing in your relationship, I'd be glad to talk with you.